Sunday, January 31, 2010

It Will Change Your Life

If you are a mama or soon-to-be mama, you need to read this:

Taken from Chicken Soup for the Woman's Soul

Time is running out for my friend.

We are sitting at lunch when she casually mentions that she and her husband are thinking of "starting a family." What she means is that her biological clock has begun its countdown and she is considering the prospect of motherhood.

"We're taking a survey," she says, half jokingly. "Do you think I should have a baby?"

"It will change your life," I say carefully.

"I know," she says. "No more sleeping in on Saturdays, no more spontaneous vacations..."

But that is not what I mean at all.

I look at my friend, trying to decide what to tell her. I want her to know what she will never learn in childbirth classes. I want to tell her that the physical wounds of childbirth heal, but that becoming a mother will leave her with an emotional wound so raw that she will be forever vulnerable.

I consider warning her that she will never read a newspaper again without asking "What if that had been my child?" That every plane crash, every fire will haunt her. That when she sees pictures of starving children, she will look at the mothers and wonder if anything could be worse than watching your child die.

I look at her carefully manicured nails and stylish suit and think she should know that no matter how sophisticated she is, becoming a mother will immediately reduce her to the primitive level. That a slightly urgent call of "Mom!" will cause her to drop her best crystal without a moment's hesitation.

I feel I should warn her that no matter how many years she has invested in her career, she will be professionally derailed by motherhood. She might successfully arrange for child care, but one day she will be waiting to go into an important business meeting, and she will think about her baby's sweet smell. She will have to use every ounce of discipline to keep from running home, just to make sure he is all right.

I want my friend to know that everyday routine decisions will no longer be routine. That a visit to Mc Donald's and a five year old boy's desire to go to the men's room rather than the women's room will become a major dilemma. That right there, in the midst of clattering trays and screaming children, issues of independence and gender identity will be weighed against the prospect that danger may be lurking in the rest room.

I want her to know that however decisive she may be at the office, she will second-guess herself constantly as a mother. Looking at my attractive friend, I want to assure her that eventually she will shed the pounds of pregnancy, but will never feel the same about herself. That her life, now so important, will be of less value to her once she has a child. That she would give it up in a moment to save her offspring, but will also begin to hope for more years, not so much to accomplish her own dreams, but to watch her child accomplish his.

I want her to know that a cesarean scar or stretch marks will become badges of honor.

My friend's relationship with her husband will change, but not in the ways she thinks. I wish she could understand how much more you can love a man who is always careful to powder the baby or who never hesitates to play with his son. I think she should know that she will fall in love with her husband again for reasons she would never have imagined.

I wish my modern friend could sense the bond she will feel with other women throughout history who have tried desperately to stop war and prejudice and drunk driving.
I want to describe to my friend the exhilaration of seeing your son learn to hit a baseball. I want to capture for her the laugh of a baby who is touching the soft fur of a dog for the first time. I want her to taste the joy that is so real that it hurts.

My friend's quizzical look makes me realize that tears have formed in my eyes.

"You'll never regret it," I say finally.

-Dale Hanson Bourke- Best Blogger Tips

Saturday, January 30, 2010

Chris is *Officially* Sworn-In as Sergeant

Sorry this took me so long to post...

{Warning: I will be bragging about my husband in this post}

Chris was *quasi-promoted* from Detective to Sergeant last spring, when Bridgette went out on maternity leave to have little Trinity (or T-nity, only her BFF's can call her that) and be home with her. When Bridgette came back, Chris was kind of doing all positions depending on the day - Patrol Officer, Detective or Sergeant.

So, finally on January 11, 2010, he was sworn-in as Sergeant, which will be his permanent position.

If I may say so myself, I think he is amazing at his job (his co-workers would tell you that he brings a lot of laughs to his job). I know he will be an amazing supervisor and will inspire his patrol officers - with his quick wit, amazing sense of humor, positive attitude and compassion for what he does.

Here are some pics of the ceremony and the tour of the P.D. that Mason & Lily had following the ceremony.

Putting his new badge on

Chris and his BFF Matt - he's going to miss the Detective Bureau

Mason didn't mind the cell and
Lily hated it..hmmmm

of course I am too short

Billie's drunk mugshot

Checking out the lockers.. this a glimpse into the future?

Chris shows them the shooting range

Mason loved the shooting range

They loved the shredded rubber
in the shooting range

A shoeless Lily poses for a
pic in front of a squad

Chris and the Chief

Mason getting scared from the sirens
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Saturday, January 23, 2010

Product Rave

I just wanted to share this new food that I found that Lily loves! Revolution Foods Organic Mashups
What's incredibly awesome about this mashed fruit...I can keep a bag in my purse and give it to her while we are driving as a snack, or if we are shopping and she needs a snack...she sucks it right out of the package, no mess and it's fruit - awesome!

**I found these at Babies R Us...but I am sure Woodman's or Whole Foods has them

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Friday, January 22, 2010

Happy Birthday Daddy

Your the best and I am so glad your my daddy!
(I know this is your favorite pic of us)
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Wednesday, January 20, 2010

NICU Follow-up/Barrium Swallow Study Updates

NICU Follow-up

Today Lily had her 18 month adjusted NICU follow-up...after spending some time playing with her...this is the news we got from Jody about where Lily is *measuring* ::drumroll please::

Gross Motor:  20 months
Fine Motor:    28 months
Expressive Communication:  24 months
Receptive Communication:  25 months
Cognitive:  29 months

We've come a long way, baby!
Basically, she is a super preemie, like my mom said all along!

Chris and I can't take any is her strength and determination that make it easy to be her parents :)
We are so proud of you Lily!!

Jody & Lily

I tried to take a pic of Jody, Lily and Judy (Lily's primary nurse),
but that was shortly after Lily was weighed,
which resulted in a meltdown

Barrium Swallow Study
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Thursday, January 14, 2010

Winter Onderland

We helped celebrate Ashlyn's (Lily's second cousin...I think) First Birthday last Saturday...the theme was a Winter are some pics of the rockin' party!

 Posing for a pic before we leave

Daddy & Ashlyn

Mommy & Ashlyn

Birthday Girl Family Picture

Ready for cake

She put a hurtin' on this cake, for quite some time

Playing by the window during Ashlyn's video
There was almost an attempted hanging by Lily with a cord from the blinds...oh boy!

Another great pic of all the kids looking at the camera and smiling!

The party was sponsored by the Gymboree Winter Ballerina Line

Chloe was also wearing it
(taking a quick 5 for some peas)

Lily sharing a bow with Auntie Billie...

....and G-G-R-Bow

Ashlyn we had a great time at your birthday!
Can't believe how fast this first year of your little life went...
can't wait to celebrate many more!

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Wednesday, January 13, 2010

Happy Birthday Billie

Today is Billie's Birthday!!!
The big 3-0!
Happy Birthday Billie, hope you have a great day - we love you!

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Sunday, January 10, 2010

20 Months!

I started this post as I do all of her "Monthly" posts....a little bit late, and usually I find that I have a ton to update about and even tend to forget things (a shame - I know). But for some reason today as I sit down to write...the screen is just staring back at me. Not that I don't have a ton to update on...just that Lily is 20 months. How did that happen? I know the first year of monthly posts, each post I said I couldn't believe how fast things were going. Now I am posting a 20 month post!!! What the H? My baby isn't exactly a baby anymore. In four months she will be in 2 years old.

So, about Lily being 20 months already!!

Weight: 22 pounds 4 ounces (she's the only one who didn't gain weight during Christmas)
Height: 32 inches
Shoes: Size 6
Clothes: 12-18 months

What's New:
  • Still talking lots, has started really singing along now...
  • Twinkle, Twinkle, little star....what you are
  • A, B, C, D......G.....J.....lmno......P.....S......V......X......Z! (this is a song I have sung to her almost every night to get to sleep)
  • Has started saying "nope" when you ask her a question, if you ask her where something is, she now says "hmmmm" and puts her finger on her lip to really think about it, and the cutest thing she is saying lately is "oh my goodness" and putting her hand over her mouth - she can't believe it!
  • And she can count every other number up to if I say 1, she will say 2, then I will say 3....etc. but she will only really do this in the car while we are driving?
  • Using her spoon exclusively with her yogurt and applesauce and her fork when she can
  • Playing lots with her kitchen and dollhouse
  • We left Lily's nuks out with the Christmas cookies...things were going so good, she was excited, I thought I was a genius...not so fast...we picked them all up together and put them out with Santa's plate and then all H broke the middle of Christmas Eve her fourth molar decided to break thru...if I would have known how hard it was for her to teeth without her nuk, I never would have taken them away. We had 3 molars that somehow came thru okay and this fourth one was NUTS!!! Seriously. We went thru a lot of rough nights (about 2 weeks of not sleeping and crying), but thank goodness Auntie Billie had this great molar teether she got for Mason and let us use it - thank you Billie!
  • She got her fourth molar
  • This month we will have her 18 month adjusted NICU follow-up and get to see Jody her NICU occupational therapist (don't say anything, but I think it's going to go really good, no pressure Jody, if your reading this), I think they are going to be evaluating her speech...which is great because Lily is a talker and was an early talker - remember this video from when she was 8 months old - she's been trying to talk since she was born
  • We had her Barrium Swallow Study test done and we are still waiting to hear if they found anything
  • I swear Florida post and pics are still coming soon!

a visit to the Pedi to rule out an ear infection
during the breakthru of the almighty fourth molar

trying on glasses at the GAP

New Year's Eve
We went to dinner at Bonefish Grill...
restuarants are starting to be impossible -
you are either the half walking Lily around
or the other half sitting by themself at the table -
what's worse? No one really gets to eat.
For this dinner I brought stickers...ahhh, glorious stickers,
and crayons and books, oh and then there
was the mac 'n cheese too.
It went good (kind of, I was still sweating),
the lady at the table next to us
 told us we had a very well-behaved child.

What can I say?
It was a rockin' New Year's...even the cats got involved
we were home by 7:00 p.m.

Sleeping Beauty
with the coveted molar teether - this teether is sent from above!
also holding onto a cutting board from her kitchen,
that she just couldn't let go of
(I think I am going to do sleeping pics every month,
I always have about a dozen to chose from)

playing with Christmas toys

telling Boots that he should "go over there"

Giggle Pants herself

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